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Dave Cobbledick

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About Dave Cobbledick

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  • Birthday 11/17/1954

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    Website Development, graphic design, photographic restoration, Science Fiction (written, movies and TV)

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  2. The last thing I said to my mother was 'goodbye' on the morning of her passing. I believe that within the family group most people do not openly express their love for one another, it's just taken for granted as it is expressed everyday in so many different ways. I find this sad, to a degree, because we 'should' tell our loved ones just how much they mean to us and how much we love them. It's often expressed in ways beyond words, by deeds by seeing to their needs; all done without really thinking about it - we just do it 'because'. I believe that showing love, compassion and appreciation to others is something that is dwindling fast - it's as you put it in another conversation, the 'me, me, me' factor. I'm not advocating that all people are like that, but from what I have witnessed over the years it is fast becoming a growing trend. Perhaps it's because the family group is not as close as it used to be - most parents both work, both are the occupied with chores and both are knackered at the end of the day and if they have kids they're often just given what they want to keep them quiet and occupied. And of course here in the UK we have those who become parents because it brings in extra money and they get almost everything for no effort. Sometimes, though, love goes beyond words, words are just words unless they have something deep and meaningful behind them and when that deep and meaningfulness comes to the fore then words just fade away and the empathy and connected feeling kicks in. I believe that is fast becoming a rarity within a family group. But yeah, 'Goodbye' my last words and even now that still bites deeply when I am at a low ebb, but that's part of the human equation.
  3. Yes, I read a book by an author called Anne Rice (Interview with a Vampire) and her descriptive narrative was amazing and so captivating that you felt you were in whatever place she was describing. There are only a handful of authors that I have found with that capability. Quite remarkable. A smile is worth a thousand words and more, especially if you have placed it there in someone by a simple act of kindness - it is one of those moments that melts your soul and connects you to that person in a way that words fail miserably to describe.
  4. It's one of the limitations of the written word, which can often come across very cold. There's no eye-contact, no body language and no grins, or eye winks, to convey more than what is actually said. Sometimes a one liner is what comes out, but then it can be followed up by multiple paragraphs to fill in the human connection that is missing. I've seen people really go to town on each other in forums simply because of a misunderstanding of the written word - words crafts we are not, unlike some who can describe something in a few words and the picture is painted as clear as if you were looking at it; for others it's very difficult to add an expression or emotion to words. It's a limitation of the structure and lack of physical nuances to fill the gaps between the words where most people fail to get their message across with the written word. People tend to write as they 'think' but they forget about all the other aspects of communication that go with the spoken word. I guess that's why we are human and so fallible lol.
  5. Thinking of good times spent with the people I love (not loved, there is no past tense where love is concerned) who are no longer here, thinking of a youth that in many ways was wasted; thoughts of what might have been 'if only' - that tiny little word 'if' has tremendously powerful intent behind it. I was thinking of my mum (that's UK for mom lol) and how we spent so much quality time together and how, perhaps, I could have done more for her. The usual happy memories that are just that now, memories with no more to make with those amazing people who touched my heart, It's a time like this, Christmas, that those memories come to the surface and they really pull on the emotions - I guess that's what makes us human.
  6. Louis Armstrong "What a wonderful world" This statement couldn't be further from the truth. Explain please, why isn't this a true statement? When you forgive someone you let go the bad feelings you felt from the wrongdoing you experienced. When you fail to forgive someone, all the angst that has been (and perhaps still is) building inside you can eat away from the inside and perhaps prevent you from moving on. For some people there is no room for forgiveness in their heart and what irks them can potentially damage them in many ways, so by forgiving someone you allow yourself to heal from the hurt, but if you let that hurt fester then that hurt will never go away.
  7. There are so many things that I could have tried harder at in my lifetime, far too many to list. Hindsight is a great teacher, but it can also be a real pain in the ass at times. I was listening to some sentimental Christmas songs the other day and I let my thoughts drift to times gone by; within a matter of minutes I could feel the wetness on my face from tears that just appeared from nowhere. We all do the best we can from day-to-day, but it's when we look back at those times that we ask ourselves "could I have done better?", "could I have tried harder?". Invariably the answer to both questions is yes, however, perhaps I did the best that I could 'at that time'. With age often comes wisdom and it can bite like snake when it hits home. All we can ever hope to do is to try the best we can in that moment, but we often repent at leisure and perhaps that's a good thing too as it grounds us and makes (or should make) us more appreciative of what we have around us now and for what we have lost in the past. Live and learn.
  8. That is a beautiful story told by a beautiful soul. Forgiveness is a difficult process, but it's as much about what you gain from it as well as the person being forgiven. I can relate in some part to your story as my own father had anger issues and hit out without warning if something annoyed him to the point where you crossed his red lines. It's terrible to see your parents living in misery as it inevitably spills over onto the children in the family. Your forgiveness of your father for depriving you of your mother and a happy family life is a testament to your capacity for love and recognition that there is good in everyone. So many people go through life not forgiving those that have hurt and been hurt and the loss is as much for them as it is for the other party. Love is the most powerful force anywhere as it breaks down barriers that others erect in such subtle and sublime ways. You have my respect and admiration for being a wonderful soul - if only the world could be filled with such souls what a wonderful place it would be.
  9. Wow what a difference a photograph can make to a story. Seeing who is being talked about adds a whole new layer to the story. Thanks for adding that Brian.
  10. Forgiveness is a human reaction to a wrongdoing - however, forgiveness is as much for the benefit as the maligned as it is for the perpetrator. Not many people are so quick to forgive and that is a tragedy for both them and one they refuse to forgive. Nothing in this life is safe, there are accidents in waiting at every turn we make in our lives as well as those who would do us harm without blinking an eye. What happened was a terrible tragedy, but it was an accident; it was not premeditated and it was certainly not intentional. The family has forgiven you for being a part of that accident, now you have to forgive yourself; that is probably one of the most difficult things for someone to do. People should not go on punishing themselves - instead they should aspire to be a force of good in the world and make sure that they can forgive others for what they do as well as themselves. You are exactly that, a force for good and you are a good person that your family should be proud of. Life throws all kinds of things at us, it's how we deal with them in a positive way that lets the light disperse the shadows.
  11. Thank you for adding that story for me Brian - it gives me comfort to know that the story has been told for others to view.
  12. There are a lot of mean people in this world - it's a good job that there are as many nice people, it just appears that they are harder to find. Your friend was a special person, not just to you as a friend, but as someone who obviously appreciated kind people and would tell them so; just as he told you of his thanks for looking out for him. You are a special person too, there appear to be fewer people who truly do care these days. Perhaps it's because we live in a world of instant gratification and the focus is on 'me first, me last, me always' leaving little room to truly appreciate those nice people out there that do give a damn and understand and appreciate that 'me' is not always the focal point in life. Life is precious and for many it can be a lot shorter than would be expected; whilst we may like to think that we're invulnerable, we're not. It doesn't take very much to knock us over, but it can take a lot to try and get back up again. Having wonderful, caring, empathic and sympathetic people around you can help you get back up, or at least deal with whatever ails you. A generation ago people were more social in real life, now it is all online in a fantasy world with little or no human contact with those that people 'socialise' with online. People need to establish a sense of community and come together; just as people did in times of adversity - a war, a tsunami or earthquake. It shouldn't need a bad time for people to come together, it can happen any time of their choosing. I'm very happy that you, Brian, choose to connect with real people in the real world; it helps to round a person and give them a sense of both purpose and achievement. One of the best rewards a person can get from another who you have helped is a smile and a hug; there's nothing else like it.
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