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  1. I would say both - the technology is the trigger factor, the addiction is the symptom. And yes, the youth in the UK are out of control - personally, I would go as far as to say that when they go into school they should brick the doors up and keep them there until they are fit to be let loose in society. The most recent issue in my own neighbourhood (UK English spelling lol) is that youths are knocking on the doors of elderly people they have sussed out who live alone and when they answer the door they push passed them and steal whatever they want; so far no one has been physically injured, but the psychological effects and trauma take their toll. Nothing is ever done to them if they are caught so even the justice system is crap. Anyhow, this is detracting from the topic somewhat, the youth of today have far too much influence on technology and how it is used and that creates the problem of loneliness through the lack of real world interactivity. I doubt there is an easy solution to this because the addiction is worldly universal and not just in the teens youth but also in the 20somthings and 30somethings et al.
  2. I'm not so sure. When I was young we didn't have screens to hide behind or demand our attention. We went out with other youngsters and played together; socially integrating ourselves with real people. Nowadays that seldom happens unless youngsters hang out in gangs with causing trouble at the forefront of their minds. Elderly people often do suffer in silence and they often don't have the means to communicate with others, not being tech savvy in a technological age can have dire consequences and disadvantages on groups of people that don't know how to use it. The poll of 55,000 covered all ages groups, the only thing it didn't reveal was how many of the 55,000 were broken down into age groups, as in how many older people were asked in comparison to younger, or was the number equal over the age group ranges? It is still an eye opener whichever way the numbers fall.
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  4. Living with Neuropathy I guess I'll start the ball rolling in this Circle by describing what Peripheral Neuropathy is and how it affects daily living to enlighten those who have never heard of it and to give some additional information for those who may be suffering from it, but are not aware that this is what they have. As I'm from the UK some of the treatments and medicines may go under different names in your country of residence, so look them up to see if there are actual differences. Peripheral neuropathy develops when nerves in the body's extremities – such as the hands, feet and arms – are damaged. The symptoms depend on which nerves are affected. In the UK, it's estimated that almost 1 in 10 people aged 55 or over are affected by some degree of peripheral neuropathy. So what is it? The peripheral nervous system The peripheral nervous system is the network of nerves that lie outside the central nervous system (the brain and spinal cord). It includes different types of nerves with their own specific functions. This is what peripheral neuropathy can affect: sensory nerves – responsible for transmitting sensations, such as pain and touch motor nerves – responsible for controlling muscles autonomic nerves – responsible for regulating automatic functions of the body, such as blood pressure and bladder function Symptoms of peripheral neuropathy The main symptoms of peripheral neuropathy can include: numbness and tingling in the feet or hands burning, stabbing or shooting pain in affected areas loss of balance and coordination muscle weakness, especially in the feet These symptoms are usually constant, but may come and go. The main types of peripheral neuropathy include: sensory neuropathy – damage to the nerves that carry messages of touch, temperature, pain and other sensations to the brain motor neuropathy – damage to the nerves that control movement autonomic neuropathy – damage to the nerves that control involuntary bodily processes, such as digestion, bladder function and control of blood pressure mononeuropathy – damage to a single nerve outside of the central nervous system In many cases, someone with peripheral neuropathy may have more than one of these types at the same time. A combination of sensory and motor neuropathy is particularly common (sensorimotor polyneuropathy). This is an encroaching and insidious disease, non-infectious so others cannot contract it from you, which can creep up on you unexpected. It can start subtly and then increase in levels that can affect your daily living. The main effect is on your ability to walk pain free; the pain levels can vary from day to day, but there is not one day where you are affected by the pains that come with Neuropathy. You may be able to take a dozen steps one day before the pain strikes and stops you in your tracks, another day you may only be able to take a few steps before you need to stop and wait for the pain to subside. It can cause you to stumble and even fall if you are not constantly aware of where you are walking. But it’s not just in the feet; it does mainly affect the extremities and can be in your toes, the balls or arches of your feet, in your ankles the top of your foot and even in the shins. Other areas affected are the hands, particularly in the fingers and thumbs, but can also be in your wrists travelling into your forearms. It can even be in your face, though this is less common. It can cause twitching in your extremities, particularly in the hands which may involuntarily spasm occasionally causing you to drop whatever you may be holding at the time. Sometimes the pain is so sudden and severe that you instinctively drop whatever you are holding. It can be both frustrating and annoying. The pain is often mobile, first it can be in your feet and then it can jump into a thumb or finger, wrist or the whole hand. It can be in your ankle and then move into your shin before jumping into your forearm; and on and on it goes, constantly – there is little respite from it and you often have to try and condition yourself into working around it, thought that it not always possible, but you have to try otherwise the alternative is to give in and that is not really an option that should be on the table. It’s something that never crosses your mind, or may never even hear about, until it strikes. There is no cure and it is often progressive, in that it will generally worsen over time. There are medications that can help treat the symptoms, but these are generally controlled drugs that can become addictive and have arrange of varying side effects, like most drugs, that can impact on your daily living and sometimes restrict what you can do. Unlike most other types of pain, neuropathic pain doesn't usually get better with common painkillers, such as paracetamol and ibuprofen and other medications are often used. These other medications should usually be started at the minimum dose, with the dose gradually increased until you notice an effect, because the ideal dose for each person is unpredictable. Higher doses may be better at managing the pain, but are also more likely to cause side effects. The most common side effects are tiredness, dizziness or feeling drunk. If you get these, it may be necessary to reduce your dose. Don't drive or operate machinery if you experience drowsiness or blurred vision. You also may become more sensitive to the effects of alcohol. The side effects should improve after a week or two as your body gets used to the medication. The main medications recommended for neuropathic pain include: amitriptyline – also used for treatment of headaches and depression duloxetine – also used for treatment of bladder problems and depression pregabalin and gabapentin – also used to treat epilepsy, headaches or anxiety There are also some additional medications that can be used to relieve pain in a specific area of the body or to relieve particularly severe pain for short periods. Capsaicin cream If your pain is confined to a particular area of your body and you can't, or would prefer not to, take the medications above, you may benefit from using capsaicin cream. Capsaicin is the substance that makes chilli peppers hot and is thought to work in neuropathic pain by stopping the nerves sending pain messages to the brain. A pea-sized amount of capsaicin cream is rubbed on the painful area of skin three or four times a day. Side effects of capsaicin cream can include skin irritation and a burning sensation in the treated area when you first start treatment. Never use capsaicin cream on broken or inflamed skin and always wash your hands after applying it. Tramadol Tramadol is a powerful painkiller related to morphine that can be used to treat neuropathic pain that doesn't respond to other treatments your GP can prescribe. Like all opioids, tramadol can be addictive if it's taken for a long time. It will usually only be prescribed for a short time. Tramadol can be useful to take at times when your pain is worse. As you can see it’s quite a well-known disease in the medical profession and a great deal of research has been done to help combat the effects, but there is no known cure and nothing on the horizon to believe something may turn up in the future. So now you know what it is and the effects and the treatments available you will want to know the causes of Peripheral Neuropathy. Diabetes Peripheral neuropathy caused by either type 1 diabetes or type 2 diabetes is called diabetic polyneuropathy. It's probably caused by high levels of glucose in your blood damaging the tiny blood vessels that supply your nerves. Peripheral neuropathy becomes more likely the longer you've had diabetes. Up to one in every four people with the condition experience some pain caused by nerve damage. If you have diabetes, your risk of polyneuropathy is higher if your blood sugar is poorly controlled or you: smoke regularly consume large amounts of alcohol are over 40 years old If you have diabetes, you should examine your own feet regularly to check for ulcers (open wounds or sores) or chilblains. Other causes As well as diabetes, there are many other possible causes of peripheral neuropathy. Some of the health conditions that can cause peripheral neuropathy include: excessive alcohol drinking for years low levels of vitamin B12 or other vitamins physical damage to the nerves – such as from an injury or during surgery an underactive thyroid gland (hypothyroidism) certain infections – such as shingles, Lyme disease, diphtheria, botulism and HIV inflammation of the blood vessels (vasculitis) chronic liver disease or chronic kidney disease monoclonal gammopathy of undetermined significance (MGUS) – the presence of an abnormal protein in the blood certain types of cancer, such as lymphoma (a cancer of the lymphatic system) and multiple myeloma (a type of bone marrow cancer) Charcot-Marie-Tooth (CMT) disease, other types of hereditary motor sensory neuropathy – genetic conditions that cause nerve damage, particularly in the feet having high levels of toxins in your body, such as arsenic, lead or mercury Guillain-Barré syndrome – a rare condition that causes rapid onset of paralysis within days amyloidosis – a group of rare but serious conditions caused by deposits of abnormal protein called amyloid in tissues and organs throughout the body conditions caused by overactivity of the immune system – such as rheumatoid arthritis, lupus or Sjogren's syndrome Medication A few medications may sometimes cause peripheral neuropathy as a side effect in some people. These include: some types of chemotherapy for cancer – especially for bowel cancer, lymphoma or myeloma some antibiotics, if taken for months – such as metronidazole or nitrofurantoin phenytoin – used to treat epilepsy – if taken for a long time amiodarone and thalidomide There may be other causes that are not known until medical investigation takes place to determine the underlying cause. Regardless of the cause, only the symptoms can be treated. Living with Peripheral Neuropathy is, as you can imagine, and unpleasant experience, but you learn to adapt and cope with the symptoms with the help of the correct medication. At this point in time I am on Pregabalin which does help take the edge off, but not always as effective as I would like it to be. At this present time, I am in the early stages but the effects are quite dramatic in that I can only walk a very short distance and the sporadic and frequent unexpected shooting pains can be distressing at times. I take amitriptyline at night to help ensure that I can sleep uninterrupted by the pains, but there is always that tingling or burning sensation the never, and I mean NEVER, stops despite medication. I’d never heard of this complaint until I was diagnosed with it and anyone suffering from it has my deepest sympathy as I can empathise with what they are going through. At some point in time it may become so severe that I may not be able to leave home for anything; this means relying on others to help out, something alien to most people who prefer to be self-sufficient and independent; but life has a funny (not so funny) habit of throwing a curveball at you from time to time and you simply have to accept what life throws at you and deal with it as best you can.
  5. The last thing I said to my mother was 'goodbye' on the morning of her passing. I believe that within the family group most people do not openly express their love for one another, it's just taken for granted as it is expressed everyday in so many different ways. I find this sad, to a degree, because we 'should' tell our loved ones just how much they mean to us and how much we love them. It's often expressed in ways beyond words, by deeds by seeing to their needs; all done without really thinking about it - we just do it 'because'. I believe that showing love, compassion and appreciation to others is something that is dwindling fast - it's as you put it in another conversation, the 'me, me, me' factor. I'm not advocating that all people are like that, but from what I have witnessed over the years it is fast becoming a growing trend. Perhaps it's because the family group is not as close as it used to be - most parents both work, both are the occupied with chores and both are knackered at the end of the day and if they have kids they're often just given what they want to keep them quiet and occupied. And of course here in the UK we have those who become parents because it brings in extra money and they get almost everything for no effort. Sometimes, though, love goes beyond words, words are just words unless they have something deep and meaningful behind them and when that deep and meaningfulness comes to the fore then words just fade away and the empathy and connected feeling kicks in. I believe that is fast becoming a rarity within a family group. But yeah, 'Goodbye' my last words and even now that still bites deeply when I am at a low ebb, but that's part of the human equation.
  6. Yes, I read a book by an author called Anne Rice (Interview with a Vampire) and her descriptive narrative was amazing and so captivating that you felt you were in whatever place she was describing. There are only a handful of authors that I have found with that capability. Quite remarkable. A smile is worth a thousand words and more, especially if you have placed it there in someone by a simple act of kindness - it is one of those moments that melts your soul and connects you to that person in a way that words fail miserably to describe.
  7. It's one of the limitations of the written word, which can often come across very cold. There's no eye-contact, no body language and no grins, or eye winks, to convey more than what is actually said. Sometimes a one liner is what comes out, but then it can be followed up by multiple paragraphs to fill in the human connection that is missing. I've seen people really go to town on each other in forums simply because of a misunderstanding of the written word - words crafts we are not, unlike some who can describe something in a few words and the picture is painted as clear as if you were looking at it; for others it's very difficult to add an expression or emotion to words. It's a limitation of the structure and lack of physical nuances to fill the gaps between the words where most people fail to get their message across with the written word. People tend to write as they 'think' but they forget about all the other aspects of communication that go with the spoken word. I guess that's why we are human and so fallible lol.
  8. Thinking of good times spent with the people I love (not loved, there is no past tense where love is concerned) who are no longer here, thinking of a youth that in many ways was wasted; thoughts of what might have been 'if only' - that tiny little word 'if' has tremendously powerful intent behind it. I was thinking of my mum (that's UK for mom lol) and how we spent so much quality time together and how, perhaps, I could have done more for her. The usual happy memories that are just that now, memories with no more to make with those amazing people who touched my heart, It's a time like this, Christmas, that those memories come to the surface and they really pull on the emotions - I guess that's what makes us human.
  9. Louis Armstrong "What a wonderful world" This statement couldn't be further from the truth. Explain please, why isn't this a true statement? When you forgive someone you let go the bad feelings you felt from the wrongdoing you experienced. When you fail to forgive someone, all the angst that has been (and perhaps still is) building inside you can eat away from the inside and perhaps prevent you from moving on. For some people there is no room for forgiveness in their heart and what irks them can potentially damage them in many ways, so by forgiving someone you allow yourself to heal from the hurt, but if you let that hurt fester then that hurt will never go away.
  10. There are so many things that I could have tried harder at in my lifetime, far too many to list. Hindsight is a great teacher, but it can also be a real pain in the ass at times. I was listening to some sentimental Christmas songs the other day and I let my thoughts drift to times gone by; within a matter of minutes I could feel the wetness on my face from tears that just appeared from nowhere. We all do the best we can from day-to-day, but it's when we look back at those times that we ask ourselves "could I have done better?", "could I have tried harder?". Invariably the answer to both questions is yes, however, perhaps I did the best that I could 'at that time'. With age often comes wisdom and it can bite like snake when it hits home. All we can ever hope to do is to try the best we can in that moment, but we often repent at leisure and perhaps that's a good thing too as it grounds us and makes (or should make) us more appreciative of what we have around us now and for what we have lost in the past. Live and learn.
  11. That is a beautiful story told by a beautiful soul. Forgiveness is a difficult process, but it's as much about what you gain from it as well as the person being forgiven. I can relate in some part to your story as my own father had anger issues and hit out without warning if something annoyed him to the point where you crossed his red lines. It's terrible to see your parents living in misery as it inevitably spills over onto the children in the family. Your forgiveness of your father for depriving you of your mother and a happy family life is a testament to your capacity for love and recognition that there is good in everyone. So many people go through life not forgiving those that have hurt and been hurt and the loss is as much for them as it is for the other party. Love is the most powerful force anywhere as it breaks down barriers that others erect in such subtle and sublime ways. You have my respect and admiration for being a wonderful soul - if only the world could be filled with such souls what a wonderful place it would be.
  12. It's the good time memories that helps to drive us forward - when someone who has woven themselves into your heart departs, the best way to remember them is to do something positive with your life, do something good. For many it is so easy to destroy, but to be creative is something special and the sad fact is that we all have something special to offer, it just seems like that part in many people just never gets the chance to surface and for others it only surfaces when something tragic happens in their lives. Imagine what an amazingly kind and prosperous world this could be if we could tap into that 'something special' without the tragedy! Just me meandering in the echoes of my mind of times gone by that should have been savoured, but were often taken for granted; reflection can be both a rewarding and bitter experience.
  13. Wow what a difference a photograph can make to a story. Seeing who is being talked about adds a whole new layer to the story. Thanks for adding that Brian.
  14. Forgiveness is a human reaction to a wrongdoing - however, forgiveness is as much for the benefit as the maligned as it is for the perpetrator. Not many people are so quick to forgive and that is a tragedy for both them and one they refuse to forgive. Nothing in this life is safe, there are accidents in waiting at every turn we make in our lives as well as those who would do us harm without blinking an eye. What happened was a terrible tragedy, but it was an accident; it was not premeditated and it was certainly not intentional. The family has forgiven you for being a part of that accident, now you have to forgive yourself; that is probably one of the most difficult things for someone to do. People should not go on punishing themselves - instead they should aspire to be a force of good in the world and make sure that they can forgive others for what they do as well as themselves. You are exactly that, a force for good and you are a good person that your family should be proud of. Life throws all kinds of things at us, it's how we deal with them in a positive way that lets the light disperse the shadows.
  15. The more you delve into the effects of Loneliness and how reaching it is, the horry story becomes clear. A recent UK poll discovered: The poll, believed to be the biggest of its kind, discovered those aged 16 to 24 suffered the most. Meanwhile 34 percent of 25 to 34-year-olds said they felt lonely often or very often. Teenagers and young adults are the most lonely people in Britain, with 40 per cent feeling isolated. The poll discovered that those aged 16 to 24 suffered from loneliness the most. This compares to just 27 per cent of over-75s saying they are lonely “often” or “very often” — despite being usually thought of as most at risk. In fact, the elderly reported the least loneliness of all age groups in the survey of 55,000 people. Just 27 per cent of over-75s said they are lonely often or very often. The figure increased slightly to 36 per cent for people in the 35 to 54 age bracket. It was 32 per cent for 55 to 64-year-olds and 29 per cent for those aged 65 to 74. Academics also found that those who had more “online only” Facebook friends — people they had never seen in real life — were more likely to feel lonely; another damning indictment of Facebook. This is a scourge the likes of which we haven't seen in decades and it has profound implications for people's physical and mental health; isolation is detrimental to health and yet it is being distributed wholesale by companies who have cultured and nurtured this sorry state of affairs in the pursuit of personal gain. Do you know anyone who has been affected by loneliness? If you do, there is something you can do to help - visit them, talk to them and let them know that there are real people in the world who care.
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