Once upon a time, there were two neighbors living next door to each other. The men were from different walks of life but they shared an interest in gardening. The two of them planted the same plants in their garden. One of them was giving a small amount of water to his plants and didn’t always give full attention to them, while the other neighbor had given a lot of water to his plants and looked after them on a daily basis.
One of the men's plants were simple and looked healthy, while the other neighbor had plants that were fuller and much greener. One day, during the night, there was a storm that brought heavy wind and rain. The following morning after the storm, both of the neighbors came out to inspect the damage to their gardens. The neighbor who had the fuller plants noticed that the wind had pulled his plants out of the ground by the roots and they were totally destroyed. The other neighbor examined his plants and found they were not damaged at all and were standing firm.
The neighbor who's plants had been ripped from the soil asked the other, “We both grew the same plants together, I actually looked after my plants better than you did for yours, and even gave them more water. Still, my plants were torn from the ground while yours stayed safe. How is that possible?”
The other replied, “You gave your plants more attention and water, but because of that they didn’t need to work for it themselves. You made it easy for them. While I gave them just an adequate amount of water and let their roots search for more. And, because of that, their roots went deeper and that made their position stronger. That is why my plants survived”.
Like any living thing, you can aide it and help it grow but it still has to have the ability to survive on its own.